Hi, I'm Sarah

Sarah Whitman, professional vow writer

Twenty years ago, my best friend Rose called me in a complete panic. Her wedding was in two weeks, and she was paralyzed trying to write her vows. She's a brilliant software engineer who can debug complex code in her sleep, but putting her feelings into words? That was a different story.

I sat down with her that afternoon. Just the two of us, a pot of tea, and a blank piece of paper. I asked her to tell me about her partner. What made her laugh? When did she know? What promises did she want to make? Within an hour, we had vows that made her cry. The good kind of crying.

At her wedding, I watched from the third row as she read those words. Her voice cracked. Her partner teared up. The entire room went silent. That's when I realized: this is what I'm supposed to do.

Word spread quickly. Friends of friends started reaching out. Then strangers. "Can you help me with my vows?" became the question I heard most. What started as helping a friend became my calling. Over the past two decades, I've sat down with thousands of couples and helped them find their words.

Every love story is unique, and your vows should reflect that. My goal is simple: to help you sound like yourself on the most important day of your life.

My Background

Education

  • • BA English Literature, UC Berkeley (1999)
  • • MA Creative Writing, Columbia University (2002)
  • • 20+ years professional writing experience

Featured In

  • • The Knot
  • • Martha Stewart Weddings
  • • WeddingWire
  • • Style Me Pretty

Why I'll Never Use AI

I know there are AI tools out there that claim they can write wedding vows. I've tried them out of curiosity, and honestly? They're soulless. They sound like they were written by... well, a computer.

Your wedding vows are too important for software to handle. When I write for you, I'm thinking about your actual relationship. I'm imagining you standing there, looking at your partner, with everyone you love watching. I'm feeling the weight of that moment.

Every vow I write is me, sitting at my desk, reading your story carefully, and crafting something with my own hands. One couple at a time. That's my promise to you. 100% human, 100% heart.

My Philosophy

"Your vows should sound like you on your best day: authentic, heartfelt, and true. Not like a template, not like a movie script. Just... you."

Sarah Whitman